im glad he made this video, because it is quite a sensitive topic
If you HAVE to stay because the abuser was you mother. She is alone now. In an assisted living place, and I am in charge of her money. You are correct, my mom has spoken about me behind my back with her helpers. You are right, they can see through falsehood. You are right, my mom is jealous, easy to manipulate.Its so hard for me to be phoney and treat her God Like, or disagree. But I will follow you advice. It is the only way.
@MyVoicenotSilenced it is a very good question. I myself want to know why do the family of the psychopaths humiliate themselves to them and project their rage onto others. Bcz i have a psychopathic br. in law and my mother in law is abused, but behaves pathetically with him and shows rage towards her other sons (including my husband)and their families.
I agree with both of you. This is such an elightening episode of my life. Malignant NPD explains most of society's woes to me. These people have ascended to the highest halls of power in our culture!
My xwife is what drove me to seek this information, 10yrs of her mNPD bullcrap left me an empty husk of the man I was before. She views my compassion and patience as weakness. It's sad really. She's lost the best friend and support system she'll ever have.
Thank you for your encouragement. It can be so insidious that you don't know it's happening and suddenly you realize you are horribly miserable and constantly upset. The ignoring, the unpredictable scraps of emotional attention,his anger when I try to bring things out into the open. I get so frusterated,I started drinking almost every night and I never had that problem before him. It feels like you're in an icy nightmare world turned on its head.But now I know.Thank you.
You must find a way and leave. Its such a painful life and you wont believe the clarity youll experience once youre away from the NPDs aura. The pain afterward will serve to remind you, youre still alive and have the right to a happy life. - survivor of NPD relationship
I'm trying to leave a relationship with a man who is clearly similar to my father, a malignant NPD man.I now am realizing that I am repeating the pattern, but I am still literally emotionally and financially dependent on him;every time I try to become more independent in either way,he or I trigger a chaotic episode that ends in my returning to an instability that perpetuates my problem. I MUST accept he is NPD to cut my codepedency.Thank you for this objective perspective; it fits him very well.
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