Anger Management Techniques: SELF TALK; Tools to stay cool in ...

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"Keep Your Cool in Seven Easy Steps. Class: This is the Lesson: How to change your anger with self talk, anger management techniques.
Author: Yvonne Sinclair M.A.,LMFT Certified Anger Management Specialist with the National Anger Management Association.
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Anger can be a two-step process. It can start with an upsetting situation and feelings of rejection, shame, or loss. This leads to a need to discharge our painful feelings and feel good again. The next part can actually increase our pain. If we let our “self-talk” increase our feelings of anger, then our pain will actually increase. Thoughts and angry feelings become a vicious cycle. This process can keep the anger increasing for hours or days. Anger will not happen without a painful incident and negative self-talk. If either one is not present, our feelings will not include anger.

Self-talk is the conversation we have with ourselves inside our head. Self-talk can either calm us or fuel our angry feelings. You will not get angry if you don’t think negative thoughts about the event. If your self-talk increases your anger, it is not working for you. Pay attention to your self-talk. Change the nature of the statements you tell yourself.
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"He said my outbursts weren’t a big issue, but I felt it was completely unacceptable. I felt ashamed, and didn’t talk to anyone about what was going on. It was a secret. I felt like a hypocrite. Everybody thought I was a sweet, calm person"


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