"Marriage brings up all the things I pushed to the back burner - the fears, the distrust, the doubts, the insecurities. It's like opening Pandora's box."

Jennifer

• Self Awareness

  Ask yourself what triggers your feeling of insecurity? Whether it is fear of loss, pain, embarrassment or rejection, find out what it i...
  Ask yourself what triggers your feeling of insecurity? Whether it is fear of loss, pain, embarrassment or rejection, find out what it is that you are insecure about and consider what new behavioural traits you might develop to make you feel more secure. Think about: what action should I take to develop the new behaviour? How does the new behaviour benefit me?
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• Laugh

  Laughter is the best medicine for the human condition. When you laugh your mood lightens up and it is said to help improve the immune s...
  Laughter is the best medicine for the human condition. When you laugh your mood lightens up and it is said to help improve the immune system too. With the internet, you can find jokes and humour at a click of a mouse button. There are lots of sources out there on the web.
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• List your fears

  List your fears and conquer them one by one. Feel insecure when you are presenting? Take up a public speaking class. Fear of talking to...
  List your fears and conquer them one by one. Feel insecure when you are presenting? Take up a public speaking class. Fear of talking to strangers? Take up a sales job. Keep conquering your fears one by one and suddenly you’ll feel a whole lot more confident in yourself!
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• Journal

  Write it down! Use a journal to record the successes you have in life. Record the mini successes you have achieved and refer back to it...
  Write it down! Use a journal to record the successes you have in life. Record the mini successes you have achieved and refer back to it regularly in order to boost your self confidence.
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• Set Goals

  Lack of direction in life can lead to insecurity. You’ll wonder what your purpose is in life and lower your self-esteem. By regularly...
  Lack of direction in life can lead to insecurity. You’ll wonder what your purpose is in life and lower your self-esteem. By regularly setting goals, you can keep on achieving while lessening the time your mind has to wander. But be sure to take baby steps when setting goals.
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Support groups for your loved ones

There are also support groups for friends and family of people who suffer from mental illnesses and addictions. They can help them find...

There are also support groups for friends and family of people who suffer from mental illnesses and addictions. They can help them find information, fellowship and tools to cope with it.

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Find reasons to laugh

This will bring light and happiness into your life, and drive anxiety away....

This will bring light and happiness into your life, and drive anxiety away.

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Think Positive

Positive thinking is the panacea for most of the conundrums of a human brain. Thoughts that are positive in nature have an uplifting st...

Positive thinking is the panacea for most of the conundrums of a human brain. Thoughts that are positive in nature have an uplifting strength and can help you tackle your insecurities to quite an extent. Being insecure equals being judgmental about yourself as well as the others around you.

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Avoid Comparisons

Don’t fall for such traps and restrict yourself to healthy competition only. Jealousy is the root cause of insecurity, so stop compar...

Don’t fall for such traps and restrict yourself to healthy competition only. Jealousy is the root cause of insecurity, so stop comparing yourself with others. Be proud of what you are and don’t try to measure up to others. It will make you feel much better.

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Fight Your Weaknesses

Just remember that no one is perfect and it is difficult to achieve perfection. Don’t overwork yourself in search of excellence. If y...

Just remember that no one is perfect and it is difficult to achieve perfection. Don’t overwork yourself in search of excellence. If you know what your weaknesses are, try to correct them and make it a point not to constantly fret on your drawbacks. Think of your strengths and evolve strategies to convert your weaknesses into your strengths.

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Have Fun In Life

Relax and have fun in life. It is necessary to contemplate the reasons behind your fears and insecurities; then take steps to get rid o...

Relax and have fun in life. It is necessary to contemplate the reasons behind your fears and insecurities; then take steps to get rid of them. But the purpose of life is to enjoy every approaching moment and it should not be lost in riddling yourself with your unfounded fears.

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Live in the moment

You have the resources, the strength, the physical ability and the intelligence to handle any situation that is in your present moment ...

You have the resources, the strength, the physical ability and the intelligence to handle any situation that is in your present moment awareness. Yet we keep trying to solve an imaginary problem which we expect the future to bring in.

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Write down your problems

If you are feeling insecure about a future situation, it’s very helpful to write down the exact nature of the problem. Just writing i...

If you are feeling insecure about a future situation, it’s very helpful to write down the exact nature of the problem. Just writing it down will help clear up mind.

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Nothing will last forever

Just remember these words if you ever feel insecure about a life situation. The most miserable experiences have a time span for which t...

Just remember these words if you ever feel insecure about a life situation. The most miserable experiences have a time span for which they can last, and then they pass.

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Embrace “not knowing”

The mind wants conclusions but life is always open ended. Get comfortable with “not knowing” and most of your insecurities will van...

The mind wants conclusions but life is always open ended. Get comfortable with “not knowing” and most of your insecurities will vanish. Have you noticed that the thing you are most certain about is what lets you down?

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Select the right target

Insecurity can be a serious issue or a social front used to get attention. Make sure you know what kind of insecurity you are dealing w...

Insecurity can be a serious issue or a social front used to get attention. Make sure you know what kind of insecurity you are dealing with.

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Try not to be narrow minded

While you may think someone is faking insecurity for attention, they may have mental or emotional problems you are not aware of. Try no...

While you may think someone is faking insecurity for attention, they may have mental or emotional problems you are not aware of. Try not to assume that someone is faking insecurity just because you can see no obvious flaws in their life.

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Take time for yourself

Do not get pulled into a relationship that revolves around you trying to improve the self-esteem of someone else. It is very damaging t...

Do not get pulled into a relationship that revolves around you trying to improve the self-esteem of someone else. It is very damaging to you, and will likely not help them - they will realize that as long as they are needy, you will be there. Don't allow them to depend on you 24/7.

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Laugh at yourself if you are embarrassed

If you're embarrassed, laugh at yourself and try to be happy. Getting angry or silently beating yourself for a long while after only de...

If you're embarrassed, laugh at yourself and try to be happy. Getting angry or silently beating yourself for a long while after only destroy your chances of enjoying what you're doing, and will leave you sore about the whole situation from then on. If you laugh, you can move on and keep trying to have fun.

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Don´t care about critics!

If someone is criticizing you, take a step back and think objectively- "Is what they're saying valid? Have they thought about this from...

If someone is criticizing you, take a step back and think objectively- "Is what they're saying valid? Have they thought about this from a number of different angles? Do they understand my side of things? Are they offering me a solution or just trying to make me feel inferior?"

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Pick up a hobby

Pick up a hobby or activity you have interest in and practice as often as possible. It can be something you do by yourself or with a gr...

Pick up a hobby or activity you have interest in and practice as often as possible. It can be something you do by yourself or with a group. Even if you aren't very good at the beginning or don't feel you're a pro after a while, you are giving yourself another trait, and if with a group, building relationships. Regularly playing a sport, hiking, knitting, reading, photography, painting, playing an instrument, collecting insects, learning a language or computer software, or volunteering in your community are all good examples.

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Help is always welcomed

Try to help others even if it is 'Simple' in ways - "It gives you a sense of confidence”-. Communicating doing/working things togethe...

Try to help others even if it is 'Simple' in ways - "It gives you a sense of confidence”-. Communicating doing/working things together brings a sense of motivation and joy inside. Make yourself wanted to others as well as yourself.

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Tell yourself the truth

Tell yourself the truth. You may have to admit that the person who earned the promotion at work performed better than you did. Learn fr...

Tell yourself the truth. You may have to admit that the person who earned the promotion at work performed better than you did. Learn from your mistakes and start doing better. You'll have the next promotion in the bag.

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Exercise and eat healthily

Exercise raises endorphins and makes one feel happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confi...

Exercise raises endorphins and makes one feel happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confidence.

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Talk positively about yourself

Condition yourself to talk positively about yourself. Every time your mind wanders and say you are not apt at it, pause for a minute, u...

Condition yourself to talk positively about yourself. Every time your mind wanders and say you are not apt at it, pause for a minute, undo those negative vibes and say you can do it. At least you should make an attempt to accomplish that daunting task. With that, you will learn more about yourself.

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Push your limits!

Do not be afraid to push yourself beyond your physical or mental limits. Such a pressure would help you see how easily things can be ac...

Do not be afraid to push yourself beyond your physical or mental limits. Such a pressure would help you see how easily things can be achieved and thereby helps you hone skills. Step out of your comfort zone.

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Avoid perfectionism

Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing your goals....

Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing your goals.

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Practice being objective

If you feel like you can’t do something or you aren’t good enough, take a moment to step outside of yourself and assess yourself wi...

If you feel like you can’t do something or you aren’t good enough, take a moment to step outside of yourself and assess yourself with an honest, positive eye.

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What’s the Worst that could happen?

If you’re unsure about trying something because you’re worried you’ll do it wrong or aren’t good enough, think about it. Most o...

If you’re unsure about trying something because you’re worried you’ll do it wrong or aren’t good enough, think about it. Most of the time, the worst that can happen is you look a bit foolish in front of people who either aren’t watching, don’t care, or have been there themselves so can empathise.

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Inferiority Complex

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission. Stop letting them. You’re not a waste of space and have every right to hav...

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission. Stop letting them. You’re not a waste of space and have every right to have your opinion heard or feelings observed as anybody else.

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Nurturing company

Hang out with people who make you feel good about yourself, not ones who’ll put you down. This is key to building confidence – havi...

Hang out with people who make you feel good about yourself, not ones who’ll put you down. This is key to building confidence – having people you trust supporting you.

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Be more forgiving of others

Don’t judge other people so much – you’ll find you develop a more positive outlook of people which will help your own persona....

Don’t judge other people so much – you’ll find you develop a more positive outlook of people which will help your own persona.

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Question your insecurity

Why do you tell yourself you can’t do it? What reasons are there? When you can find the root causes and either eliminate them or come...

Why do you tell yourself you can’t do it? What reasons are there? When you can find the root causes and either eliminate them or come to terms with them, you may find you have no reason to be insecure, which can be a huge confidence boost.

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Try new things

If not a new one every day, keep trying exciting new things and really pushing yourself to get out there in the world....

If not a new one every day, keep trying exciting new things and really pushing yourself to get out there in the world.

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So what? Attitude

Don’t keep asking what if this happen or what if that happen. You can run your imagination wild if you keep asking yourself what if. ...

Don’t keep asking what if this happen or what if that happen. You can run your imagination wild if you keep asking yourself what if. Tell your self “So What?” There are a lot of things that are actually minor problems until we are guilty of making a mountain out of a mole. Zac Efron can be more handsome then me, so what? The world still revolves.

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Remember that everybody is plagued by insecurities, some just choose not to dwell on them

Be one of the people who don't dwell It doesn't mean your anger, frustration and hurt goes away but it does mean you deal with these fe...

Be one of the people who don't dwell It doesn't mean your anger, frustration and hurt goes away but it does mean you deal with these feelings far more constructively and don't let them eat you up and stop you from doing things in life.

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Mentor system

Find a person that you can trust and tell them about the challenges you are facing. Let them track your progress and shower you with co...

Find a person that you can trust and tell them about the challenges you are facing. Let them track your progress and shower you with compliments.

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Never let others justify your existence

Be strong. Only you can be who you are, so be yourself and enjoy it. Revel in the reality that everyone is different, including you....

Be strong. Only you can be who you are, so be yourself and enjoy it. Revel in the reality that everyone is different, including you.

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Live the Present

If you are agonizing over the past or where you're headed, you are doomed to a lifetime of living somewhere else. Bring yourself back t...

If you are agonizing over the past or where you're headed, you are doomed to a lifetime of living somewhere else. Bring yourself back to the here and now. Be present. Enjoy whatever you're doing, even if it's tedious, mundane, or unpleasant. There is always something worthwhile to be found in your activity to anchor you.

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Don't become absorbed in your "insecurities"

If someone doesn't like you and makes you feel hurt, (which will and does happen 24/7 to everybody), realize it's their problem, not yo...

If someone doesn't like you and makes you feel hurt, (which will and does happen 24/7 to everybody), realize it's their problem, not yours. The "hurt" that you experience is a desired result of theirs, not an automatic reaction to hold. Learn to push aside the daily unkindnesses and replace them with rational thoughts instead of gut feelings. Try it: "It is their issue, not my personality".

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Alter what you don't like about yourself instead of dwelling on your faults

Along with changing your perspective, find out what do you want to achieve more of and do it! A person who consistently says they can't...

Along with changing your perspective, find out what do you want to achieve more of and do it! A person who consistently says they can't, can't. Don't get that way in the first place; act now rather than mope all the time.

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Think outwardly but don't forget about yourself

You must be at peace with yourself before you can be at peace with the world around you, you must love yourself before you can love oth...

You must be at peace with yourself before you can be at peace with the world around you, you must love yourself before you can love others, you must give to yourself before you can give to others. Your insecurities are not minimal; they define how you interact with others, so it is crucial to fix yourself before you fix anything else.

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Think ahead and make the right decisions towards a brighter future

You can't change who you were, only who you will become....

You can't change who you were, only who you will become.

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