How to fight insecurities


Fighting insecurity is not as concerned to 'fighting' as it is to realizing, accepting and reworking on our thought-model. With our basic desire for being happy, it’s possible for us to check our inside corrosion.

Some strategies could be:

  • Have a neutral (not judging) look at your past and try to find out what contributed in making you feel inferior and insecure around others. Sometimes, it is like: "My peers used to laugh at me/my...." or "I could not be as witty as them when...". The more deep we analyze roots of our insecurity the more clear and less scary it gets. As it is said in the movie Batman Begins "We fear what we don't understand".
  • Now, accept that you have really been through times which robbed you of your cheerfulness and free-flow. And tell yourself that you are not going to let yourself feel insecure anymore.
  • Tell yourself that you don't have to justify your existence to anybody. Stop pleasing others consciously or unconsciously.
  • Now, start building your thought-structure again.
  • Inculcate some good habits and try to do one good thing daily when nobody is watching you. It heals your soul. 
  • Think/Wish well for others because when we think well we unconsciously become an expert in seeing well everywhere. And Vice-Versa.
  • Do what you like and mean it. It tells your mind that you are proud of what you do and it brings life to your work.
  • Tell yourself that life is not a test where you get maximum credits for having/being: best job, best spouse, best leader or best style. Life is about how easy it is for you to fall asleep after going to bed at the end of the day.
  • The more you learn what life really means the more you unlearn what haunts you for no good reason.
  • Feel good for yourself and if you don't then do things that make you feel so. Recognize that cheerfulness, confidence, happiness (not pleasure), character and optimism live in the same house (or mind, for that matter).
  • A bird does not care about how weak the tree branch is because it knows how to fly. Just like that we should continue to better ourselves by learning interesting/uninteresting things. 'Knowing stuff' increases our self-esteem.
  • Be humble.

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"I worry that if I can't be happy with myself, then nobody will ever be happy with me, and that just makes me even more paranoid. The insecurity, low confidence, and diffidence, it's all a cycle and it's destroying me."


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