Anger Management Techniques

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However, this still leaves the problem of dealing differently with those situations that make you angry. This takes practice.

 

The first thing to do is list the situations that make you angry. Note down exactly what it is about them that makes you angry - it may be the immediate situation, or it could be that it represents a build-up of issues you haven't resolved.

 

Now ask yourself four questions about your interpretation of these situations:

 

  • What evidence is there to show this is accurate?
  • Is there another equally believable interpretation of what's going on here?
  • What action can I take to have some control of the situation?
  • If my best friend were in this situation, what advice would I give to them?

 

This won't dispel the anger for every situation, but when you're angry it can be difficult to assess a situation accurately. If a situation arises unexpectedly and you feel your temper rising, walk away and complete this exercise if you can.

 

If your anger isn't resolved by this, make sure you've given enough thought to what exactly you’re angry about. You need to be sure exactly before you can resolve it. It will usually involve a person, but not necessarily the one who's the target of your anger in the situation and this is the person you need to work the situation out with.

 

To do this, find a time to raise the problem when you feel more in control of your temper. It may be a good idea to agree a time in advance. 


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