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What is self-care?

What is self-care?

Find out about the support that's available to help you look after yourself if you have a long-term condition.

Self care means looking after yourself in a healthy way, whether it’s brushing your teeth, taking medicine when you have a cold, or doing some exercise.

If you have a long-term condition, there are extra things you may need to consider, such as making changes to your diet, different types of exercise or different types of medication you may need to take.

Self care also means staying active by doing things that are important to you, such as gardening, seeing friends and family, going on holiday, or continuing to work, if possible. It involves looking at what you can do and want to do, rather than what you can’t do.

Living a healthy lifestyle is an important part of self care for everyone. There's lots of useful healthy living information in the Live Well section of this site. If you're living with a long-term condition, Your health, your way has advice on self care and taking control of your health.

Self care doesn’t mean you get less help from your doctor. The healthcare team is still there to support you. What and how much support you need will be discussed with you and written in your care plan.

Self care and choice

When you talk to your GP or nurse about your condition, you may want to discuss some of the things you need to do to stay well. Some of these will be things that you do yourself, such as eating healthily, exercising, or taking your medicines at the right time.

You might want to make choices about your care and who will provide it. This means sitting down with your nurse or GP and looking at what treatment and care is available and recording it in a care plan.

When you’re first diagnosed with a long-term condition, these choices will be important. Whether your condition improves or gets worse, or other things in your life change, you may need to change your care plan to suit your needs.

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"Find some time to relax and clear your head, which will also help you feel less anxious."

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Caroline

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Anon

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Ann Landers

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Michelle Howieson

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Tracy

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Yao Li

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Cynthia

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Nicole

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Asadora

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Liam

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Peter

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Robbie

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Jenny

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Anonymous

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Kathirena

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Andrew

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Andrew

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Allie

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Allie

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Allie

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Marge

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Marge

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Chase

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Donna

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Anonymous woman

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Anonymous woman

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Dr Linda Sapadin

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Dr Linda Sapadin

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Dr Roger Papadopoulous

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Shelley

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Shelley

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Shelley

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Brian

"These dreams were ours. That is why the pain is so great. We feel our dream slipping away. It’s such a shame we have imposed our dream upon our child and we see their addiction as a failure to achieve our dream."

Brian

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Brian

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Pamela

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Pamela

"There is a way out. Whatever first step you decide upon, take it today. You will not regret it."

Pamela

"I believe some of us are more determined to stay, some of us more likely to withdraw and that it isn’t necessarily the degree of strife that makes the difference"

Gina Sangster

"Every now and then we may find ourselves in a relationship that has just run its course."

Donna

"Frank can’t stand to be seen as responsible for any failure. When he makes a mistake, his mantra is “I may be wrong but you are wrong-er.”"

Marie Hartwell-Walker

"Sometimes it’s easier to talk to a stranger than to relatives or friends"

Jane

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Harriet

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Albert

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Anonymous

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Anonymous

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Louis

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Laura

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Henry

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Jasmine

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Julia

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Brenda

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SLEEP!

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Get a pet

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Face your feelings

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Look after your physical health

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Give yourself a break

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Don’t go through problems alone

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After a breakup

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What is self-care?

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Quotes

Tips & Hints

Set Expectations

Be resourceful

Have a good support system

Handle your emotions

Have a sense of humor

A Different Treatment?

Problem solve

Keep calm

Use humour

Be proud of surviving

Feeling totally burned out? Retreat in solitude for a while

When you're feeling down, or not yourself, listen to music

Learn to say

Face your difficulties

Go ahead and make mistakes

Call an old friend

Try volunteering

Allow yourself to be less than perfect

Socialize with positive people

SLEEP!

Get a pet

Turn to friends and family members

Face your feelings

Look after your physical health

Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel, and don’t tell yourself how to feel either

Plan ahead for grief “triggers”

Coping with separation/divorce

Give yourself a break

Don’t go through problems alone

After a breakup

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