Find alternatives to self-harm


Help the young person find alternatives to self-harm.  Some young people find it helpful to develop a list of alternatives to their self-harm.  Young people have said that their most successful alternatives are:

- Hitting a punch bag to vent anger and frustration.

- Hitting pillows or cushions and having a good scream.

- Going outdoors for a walk.

- Any form of physical exercise.

- Writing down thoughts and feelings on paper and possibly ripping them up.

- Keeping a diary.

- Calling and talking to a friend.

- Creative alternatives like art.

- Looking at self-help websites.

- Using a pen to draw on their skin in the place they might usually cut.

- Holding an ice cube against their skin instead of cutting. 

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The Have I Got A Problem website is a free online resource to help people better understand any issues or concerns they may have about mental health or addiction. The website includes resources specifically focused to; general Mental Health, Depression, Stress, Anxiety, Insecurities, Self-harm Schizophrenia, Bipolar, Anger Management, Eating Disorders, Coping, general Addiction, Alcohol, Smoking, Gambling, Drugs, Cocaine, Heroin, Marijuana (Cannabis) Ecstasy, PCP, Mephedrone, Ketamine & Crystal Meth.

The site was created to give the public information to help them understand mental health and addiction issues and to assist people in making better informed decisions about their life and personal choices. was created and is run by 'Advising Communities’, which is a UK registered charity (Charity No. 1061055)


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