How to overcome insecurity


We all deal with insecurity at some point or another, it is a natural way to try and gauge whether our ventures will be successful or end badly for us. In the case of trying to decide whether or not to jump the Grand Canyon on a motorbike, this is a very good quality. But in daily life, being too insecure to attempt even small tasks such as speaking honestly to friends or committing to a new project limits your ability to enjoy the time you have here on earth. Often insecurity is unwarranted and causes more stress than it prevents. Life is constantly changing and anything that is stable today may be broken or gone tomorrow. But if you make yourself powerful, you can always rebuild, overcome, and keep moving forward by your own will, and find happiness wherever you go.

Steps to overcome insecurity:

  1. Practice being objective. If you are feeling like you can't accomplish something, take a step out of yourself for a moment and imagine you are a completely different person.
  2. Assess each response you give yourself and compare it to what you have been told by others and any experiences in the past that were similar- Not just the bad ones!
  3. Ask yourself, "What's the worst that could happen?" And be realistic with your answer.
  4. Now ask yourself, "What's the best thing that could happen?"
  5. Find things that are good about yourself. Insecurity often springs from expecting too much.
  6. Keep nurturing company. Pay attention to the friends you keep and their attitudes about others, themselves, and you.
  7. Be more forgiving of others. Do not be quick to pass judgment, yourself.
  8. Question why you tell yourself no. Start saying yes more often. Say a distant friend of yours from your music class approaches you and tells you they want to start a band, and they'd like you to join.
  9. Do one thing that excites you every day. It doesn't have to be dangerous- just go to a part of town you've never been to on your own and go into a random store. See what you find there. Try talking to the clerk.

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