Is anger a sign of power or a sign of weakness

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Anger itself is a destructive emotion and it can not possibly contain enough fuel to accomplish great things.  Yes its true anger can be energizing but only for a very short while as a part of a human fight or flight response.  This energy can not be sustained long term because it is too consuming. It is like fire that burns everything from within and suffocates one’s mind.  People that carry anger for a long time age quickly and die miserable deaths.  It is a scientific fact.

So perhaps we can finally rule out one option – anger is not a strength.  So where does this leave us?  Only one option left – anger is a weakness.  Hard to imagine, isn’t?  So many of us carry it around, use it all day long, share it with others, and now it is a “weakness”?

In fact, ancient wisdom traditions call anger pure madness.  And it is true.  Just look at what happens when we get seriously ticked off:

  • Ego gets hurt, it acts up and floods our system with hormones that send a signal to the brain to either run or punch someone in a nose as soon as humanly possible.
  • We lose clarity of the situation; our vision narrows and we can only see one thing – the object of our anger.
  • If we ca not get physical and punch someone, then insecurity sets in making us feel deflated, looking like a birthday balloon from a party two weeks before.
  • We struggle with the moment, resisting it, helplessly looking for someone to blame for this misery.

And why?  Because we lost control, we had no anger management technique to subdue the beast.  We allowed anger to visit us and we never slammed the door in its face banishing it from ever coming again.  You see, we have been habituated to react in this way for years; we even saw it on our parents.  We have accepted anger as a tool to communicate something very firmly or scare someone into submission.  We subconsciously believe that “It is worked a few times in the past so it must be effective.”

Let us face it – this is truly a dis-empowering and clumsy emotion.  The kind of emotion that makes us look weak, helpless and down the road when all dust settles – just plain stupid.

“Big dogs do not bark.” They do not need to – they know they are big, strong, and can do whatever the heck they want.  Only small dogs bark – for them it is their way of expressing significance.

Anger is a sign of weakness 

So why bother getting angry?  Let us just be like the big dogs and do what we want without anger. We start living our lives with power when we adopt a conviction that we are always in control with what happens within.  Events will take place, things will change, people will try to upset us, our dogs will die, our boss will get ticked off – we ca not control any of that.  These are facts of life.  The only thing we can learn to control is what happens within.  When we do, we become solid like a rock.  If we manage anger and never allow it to rule our minds, we will never be sorry for our actions.  People will feel good being around us.  They will feel safe and supported.  Our life will undoubtedly acquire a deeper meaning.  What can be cooler than that?


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